Isn’t acting in a way that pleases someone the same thing as unconditional love? Aren’t making concessions part of “turning the other cheek”? These are some common questions people have about unconditional love because, more than likely, they have never experienced unconditional love.
Co-dependancy has no place in unconditional love since having a person become dependant on you enables them to be in some form of “dysfunction”. Do you really like living with an alcoholic, drug-abuser and/or spouse beater? Your non-descriminatory behavior where you “look the other way” while hurtful circumstances occur may seem “loving” to your partner, but what about you?
Where does unconditional LOVE fit into a co-dependant relationship? Unconditional LOVE can only exist when LOVE is given freely without conditions (i.e. getting LOVE for yourself in return). Partnerships always rely on a certain amount of “give and take”, but when one partner consistently gives in to the desires of another while ignoring their own needs and wants…there is a problem.
The problem here is one of judgement. Not one of us is able to say whether alcoholism, or drug-abuse, or even spousal abuse is either a good or bad thing. We certainly don’t like to see what look like “negative effects” from these issues. But how do we know these “negative effects” are truly negative?
Case in point. Marriage to an alcoholic is not pretty, but perhaps the “negative” circumstances of that marriage prompt one partner, and/or the other partner to truly seek their emotional freedom instead of developing a co-dependant relationship. In this case, the alcoholic marriage is actually a tool used for soul nourishment.
This really makes life seem at odds, doesn’t it? When we stop making judgements, even though judgements seem obvious to us, then we can experience true, unconditional love. This article may be of interest to you: http://soundofheart.org/galacticfreepress/content/archangel-gabriels-daily-message-sunday-february-16-2014
Enjoy!