You have likely discovered that despite your best attempts, you are feeling somewhat burdened by the holiday activities. Such is so because you are not only fulfilling 3D commitments, you are also allowing, even encouraging new skills and directions within you.
What you are not yet aware of is that you are also likely to feel more joy than expected throughout the next few days. Such is so because you have climbed and conquered the mountain of guilt, shame, lack of self-love, and fear that was your 3D being lifetime after lifetime. Instead of wishing and hoping, you are beginning to feel the need to change, to create experiences that better meet your inner needs.
Even though you have prepared for months, years, even decades, it was only recently you allowed your inner-being to direct you. For you believed lifetime after lifetime that your directives were dependent on those wiser or wealthier than you.
Such is not to say you are completely free of 3D dictates, but that you question far beyond what you ever have. No longer are you willing to appease someone at your expense – emotionally or physically.
You are ready to create your new life. A life which may include those you now hold dear – or not. You are a new being in a new physical body.
Perhaps such a declaration does not seem that important now. But as you adjust to new you with new needs, you will understand what we are speaking of. For this need to create a new life is little different from what was true when we suggested you explore self-love.
The 3-D phrase of self-love held little meaning for you until you started living in self-love.
So it is for your creations. Your first creative wishes were perhaps of items that would propel you forward in your societal domain – a new car, home, bigger television, etc. That is until you began questioning the need of others to discount, ignore, blame, or shame you.
Instead of accepting “browbeating” as part of your expected life, you felt the need to talk back, respond, deflect, ignore, or leave.
So it is now. You are shifting from pleasing everyone to knowing that before you can truly please anyone, you must please yourself. For your happiness, your joy is your light. Such is so because more and more beings of the earth are tired of the moodiness, anger, physical violence, betrayal, arrogance, and all other pieces that encourage anyone to feel less than they are.
Others will begin to question your joy.
Even if you have not yet pinpointed where your joy originates, you will soon enough. For your joy is dependent on your freedom of thought and action. As you allow those pieces to flow, so will your joy expand through and around you.
You are your own guru means that no one but you can make you sad or happy.
As you claim the energies now pummeling earth, you will decide sadness is no longer your friend. And that despite others’ tales of fear and anger, such is their choice, not yours.
Until now, you have felt the need to sense and then respond to fears and anger, pushing aside your joys in compliance with the woes of others. “How can I be joyful if my friend is suffering?”
Instead of accepting that your joy is a more important healing tool than sympathetic woes can ever be, you compromised your joy to meet the needs of others.
If everyone creates their life – and they do – why do you need to play their game instead of yours? Is it not more fun to play than to cry?
As a child, your best friend was most often someone fun to play and talk with. So it is now only in reverse. For you are in a new role in a new time.
Perhaps those friends and family who continue to feel the need for fear and pain will wish to be with you – or not. That is not your decision – it is theirs. Just as you are now declaring your freedom from fear.
Many of you wonder what you should do or say to those with physical ailments or emotional stresses. What do you wish to say? Do you wish to console them? Exit from the relationship or help repair them emotionally or physically?
The only choice you no longer have is to try to make them whole at your expense.
For you are no longer willing to placate, coddle, or take care of them if they are not willing to care for themselves. Such will be your deciding factor. If they wish you to deny your truth to take care of them because they are too afraid, too lazy or too stuck in fear to do so for themselves, you will not be interested in furthering that relationship.
Some of you worry that such a statement indicates new you is selfish and unsocial. The opposite is true for you are claiming yourself in a new joy environment. Something you have planned for and dedicated yourself to for eons.
You are free and so is everyone.
How often do you expect others to take care of you? Most likely, you – because of your strengths – have been the designated caretaker for many of those you hold in your heart. But doing so is no different from a parent protecting their child from all pain and then suddenly thrusting them into the world expecting them to function in a world filled with fear and failure.
You forerunners are the joyful guides of those who wish to follow. Commiserating and taking care of their pain does not help you – and most certainly creates fear in them as they realize they cannot be like you. For they will continue to hold 3D fears without knowledge of how to eradicate or complete their clearing process as you needed to do before you discovered self-love.
You are not selfish or fearful. You are the joy example that will only strengthen as you declare your freedom to be and the same for all. So be it. Amen.
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